All too often family caregivers wake up one day and realize that they’re responsible for a lot more than they realized or than they signed up to do. But how does that happen?
Proximity to Your Aging Adult
For many primary caregivers, you’re right there with your elderly family member. You might live near her while other family members don’t or you might actually live in the same home. What happens at first is that you’re the person who is most convenient to the situation with your aging adult and therefore you can put eyes on what is happening. Often this rapidly translates to being the main caregiver.
Time Available Compared to Other Family Members
Perhaps you have quite a bit of time at your disposal right now. You may have lost your job or you’re in a situation that allows you quite a bit of free time. When other family members don’t have that luxury, it’s natural for them to ask you to check on your senior and make sure that all is well. After a period of time, however, your responsibilities with your elderly family member may have grown, while your disposable time shrank.
You’re Able to Do What Needs Doing
Caregiving is hard work. It’s extremely taxing emotionally as well as mentally. Some family members are just not able to make those difficult decisions, even with guidance in the form of written instructions from your aging adult. If you’re able to do those things that need doing, however, that can earn you the spot as the primary family caregiver.
Look into How You Can Find Support
Not everyone is cut out to be a caregiver for long. You may meet all of the criteria listed above and yet still struggle with these duties. Find ways to access support, whether that is contacting agencies for the aging in your area or hiring elderly care providers to pick up some of the slack. You might want to consider also talking to your other family members about someone else stepping up to the primary spot if you’re having trouble.
Being the primary family caregiver may be something that you’re able to do now, but perhaps not in the future. It’s important to figure out now how long you’ll be able to commit to the role.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering elderly care in Cinnaminson, NJ, please contact the caring staff at TLC Home Care Services today. Call (856) 234-8700 for more information.
Kelly C. McCabe is a founding partner and co-owner of TLC HomeCare Services.She and her business partner,Patti Maltese founded TLC HomeCare Services in March of 2009.In addition to management, marketing and sales, staffing and recruiting, Kelly holds her New Jersey producer’s license in Health and Life insurance and is also a New Jersey Certified Home Health Aide.Kelly is the proud mother of two daughters and is a resident of Moorestown, NJ.